Baby Steps “You don’t know what is going on inside of me!” I don’t know how many times I have heard that statement. People have a stubborn belief that they know themselves better than anyone else knows them. Almost without exception, those who say those words are defending a broken mess, not knowing how to handle it themselves, but not willing to let anyone else in. Teenagers naturally go through a process of separating from adults, a process of becoming independent. To he

In all of the culture wars that are being waged, I wish people could hear one thing. What we think, feel, and hear is filtered by the lens of the heart. We perceive right and wrong from a personal point of view. The relativists among us hear that statement and say, “I told you there is no right and wrong. My truth is my truth.” Those who believe in relative truth missed the word perceive. Truth about human behavior can be judged according to outcomes even as a good scienc

Have you ever tried to help someone who is in self pity? It is like being in quick sand. The more effort you put in, the faster you will sink into an ugly pit right along with them. Anything you say or do to a self pity person can or will be used against you. For that matter, anything that you fail to do or say may be used against you. The core of the self pity person is “I deserve.” So even what you fail to do that fits their “I deserve” mindset can become an offense. T